"The reason so many find it so hard to be in interracial relationships is because, in my opinion, there is still entirely too much emphasis on and preoccupation with race," says Fabius.
Over the last several decades, the American public has grown increasingly accepting of interracial dating and marriage.
"But when I started to date a black man in college, their true colors came out.
The way they reacted, it's like I told them I had cancer. I never thought they were racist, but I guess you never know.""If I dated outside the Filipino community, my mother would go nuts," jokes (not really) Amy Padot, a 29-year-old web developer in Atlanta.
Bob Jones University in South Carolina only dropped its ban on interracial dating in 2000; a year later 40 percent of voters objected when Alabama became the last state to remove a ban on interracial marriages from its constitution. One of the hardest struggles for interracial couples is the fact that the topic itself is still one of the most debated "taboos" in our country -- a country that, at its heart, is still very nervous about the idea of races, cultures, and classes mixing.
(Consider ongoing immigration debates, an imbalanced criminal justice system, and the fact that we can't stop obsessing about the degree of blackness of our mixed-race presidential candidate.)It also doesn't help that happy, healthy interracial couples are still a novelty in Hollywood.
Maybe that 93 percent would just rather avoid them. I'm white, and I lead a very happy life with my black husband.
It's racism, pure and simple," says Charles Taylor, in an article about the lack of such relationships in pop culture.
"Perhaps these attitudes are sometimes connected to an executive's fear that audiences will be turned off by the sight of black and white together, but a decision that bows to racism must bear the mark of racism itself."If liberal Hollywood can't embrace the image of interracial love, what are the odds the Deep South will?
Interestingly, teen networks like The N and ABC Family are quite progressive in showing boys and girls of all different colors holding hands and developing crushes.
The N's Degrassi: The Next Generation pushed lines further with kissing, sex and pregnancy, and has continued to with couples on Instant Star and The Best Years; ABC Family's Lincoln Heights focuses on a black family with a teen daughter who's dating a white boy. The best interracial couple we've seen in years was Sandra Oh and Isaiah Washington on Grey's Anatomy.