“We all knew and trusted each other pretty well, so we elected to skip the boundaries chat.” As to the issue of male-male contact, it wasn’t discussed upfront, but a little of it happened.
It was fine, Shawn says, “though after we were done, my friend reported that he wasn’t as into that part as he thought he’d be.”From the perspective of the sexual ringer, Ash — a gay man and musician in his mid-20s — once hooked up with a couple who happened to be close friends of his.
“We were all in the taxi queue to go home, and someone jokingly brought up the subject of spit roasts,” begins James, a bisexual 28-year-old IT technician from the U. “My friend said she didn’t know what one was, which in hindsight was definitely a lie.
I then made the joke that my other friend and I could show her.
“I’ve fantasized about male-male experiences,” says Shawn, an American accountant in his early 30s who describes himself as mostly straight.
“But haven’t done much to experiment in that regard.” When a longtime friend of his and his girlfriend was staying at their house for a few days, the group ended up getting together without much premeditation.
And yet, it’s a truth universally acknowledged that a single woman in possession of a good dick must be in want of a second.
Among my hetero and bisexual women friends, being the base of an Eiffel Tower is a frequently discussed fantasy.
Sadly, many of these women go unfulfilled (and unfilled) because of the difficulties of setting up an MMF threesome.That said, it’s a good idea to discuss contact amongst the various parties and any potential hard limits, since there’s a huge range in what participants might be looking to get out of the experience.For instance, for some men, a MMF threesome is simply an opportunity to have sex with a woman — albeit with another guy present.Not only that, the presence of another dude — entailing the presence of another dick — can be threatening.Unless you’re a diehard cuck who’s successfully eroticized that threat, the Devil’s Threesome is likely an unappealing prospect.She said yes and me and my friend looked at each other like, ‘Uhhhh are we gonna?’ We both nodded, and we all got in a taxi.”With that, James had his first threesome.Theories on the name tend to reach for symbolic or religious roots, claiming that the two “horns” involved represent Satan’s, or that they reference the devil’s forked member.These are cute ideas, but a much simpler explanation considers the fact that potential male-male sexual contact is anathema to heteronormativity.But to simply say “threesome” isn’t specific enough, because the term tends to evoke the configuration of one man and two women (MFF), which occupies a privileged role in the sexual imagination as the unmarked menagé.This contrasts greatly with what James experienced—what many refer to as the Devil’s Threesome.