Girls age at a rate much faster than their male counterparts.Things that men in their 20s can never understand, older men can articulate in one, wisdom-filled sentence.So does this mean the only hope for a happy, committed relationship is to move to another country? As mentioned above, the observations summarized above are not really about where one is born, but rather a mentality that is influenced by societal and cultural values.We must be aware of our own behavior in the dating game, because we are active participants in how we are treated.They are also raised with strong family and community values, so there is a sense of responsibility and accountability for others, not just for the self.
They tend to have more of it than the guys your own age. As annoying as it can be to have some man hold the door open for you every time you enter a building, it’s a gesture of feminine appreciation that has more or less evaporated amongst the younger generation due to progressive ideologies (which, don’t get me wrong, are a good thing overall).Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.Perhaps this has to do with their upbringing, where it’s very normal for boys and girls to play and intermingle together.Also, it will take place in much more pleasant venues, like a nice restaurant instead of a filthy dive bar (but don’t completely forsake the filthy dive bars).These guys know how to behave in a relationship because they’ve done it before with a variety of women, learning all the ups and downs through a variety of dating obstacles.I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years.The below is a list of some of the themes and commonalities observed.In fact, you may be experiencing attractions of deprivation, where you try to recreate the issues from childhood in your romantic partners.Unlike guys in their 20s, men in their 30s and above have an established sense of who they are in this world and what they’re doing with their lives.American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.The types of dates seen in movies – the formal ask, the fancy dinner and the entire dance that ensues simply doesn’t exist in the European mindset, in fact, the word “dating” isn’t even a part of their lexicon. Unlike American culture, where there’s almost a rite of passage which takes two people from “hooking up” to “seeing each other” to “dating” to “exclusive”, these labels just aren’t a focus or concern for European men. Rather, the mentality is, “I like you, I want to see you, and if it’s enjoyable, let’s keep seeing each other”.