Online dating is also faster than waiting for your best friend to fix you up with her cousin, or someone from her yoga class.
Heck, you don't even have to grieve a death or divorce; just jump right back in the mix and sort them out as you go along; sounds like take-out doesn't it? Like anything else in life online dating has its pros and cons, but it's too damn fast, and when something comes too fast and comparably easy, we don't trust it—it can't be a good thing—it can't be authentic.
I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.
Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.
In my zeal to find out as much about Andy's good fortune as possible I innocently asked: "So, how'd you two meet? Realizing I stepped into something awkward I thought to myself: OMG they met in prison; or on a street corner.
After a few seconds passed and all of our skin tones returned to a normal light pinkish color Carol responded: "Well, uh, we met online...that's right...online...the computer." Okay, so it was a pretty good impression of Annie Hall, but why all the fuss? Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention?
Makes sense; it's easier to endure rejection from afar rather than have someone laugh directly in your face.
FYI: my female clients claim that it‘s a must for a woman to have a terrific picture to get online attention but it's not as important for a man to have one.
Nope; just a couple of taps on your keyboard and presto: Janine appears on your screen to tell you that she loves to laugh, isn't needy, loves her children more than life itself, and can find time to fit you into her mind-boggling schedule.Before the internet were the "lonely hearts" columns of the newspapers, which served the same purpose but at the speed of snail mail.Folks used to be embarrassed to admit using those ads, too.Neverthless, most people tend to date someone within a few miles of their home.One woman told me that she loves dating a guy who lives close by because she can see him almost any time she wants without a "big production." Another convenience of online dating is that you don't have to leave your house to get a date; kinda like Netflix® don't ya think?Relationships should be less predictable and worth waiting for.We have too much control over a romantic process and in turn, we're killing the romance.A few e-mails and a telephone call or two will allow your personality to work for you—a real plus.In the bar scene it's all about your looks; you don't have the luxury of putting your best picture out there because—you're out there—in the flesh.In fact, one woman admonished him for not posting a picture: "If I have to put one up there you should to," she said.Online dating is also convenient, or I should say as convenient as you'd like it to be.