) is definitely a bit of a red flag, as it goes against normal social 4) Time of the messages: Text/facebook (or whatever social media you use) messages first or last thing at night are a big red flag, because they show that you/they are the first or last thing on each others minds.
5) Frequency of the messages: If you/they are in touch a great deal more than with other people, then it shows that the friendship has greater significance.
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Do you have any tips for recognising when a friendship is just that and when in female terms it goes too far?
1) If it was the other way around: The first big rule is what would you think if your partner was having the same friendship with someone else? This is one of the best measuring methods of whether the friendship is inappropriate.
2) Opposite sex: I’m not saying don’t have friends with the opposite sex, but this is a good clue to their being a potential problem ;o) 3) Many years age difference: Having a close relationship with a girl many years younger, or a guy who is much older (and of course it can go vice versa in this new world of the Couga!
If you liked this Problem Corner, then you would definitely be interested in one two years later, where a wife was concerned about the friendship between her husband and a co-worker.
** UPDATE ** There have been so many hits on this post this year and so many comments, that I don’t feel I can give the required attention to.