Lie #3 – Sexual purity is about whether or not you have sex. I've heard from scores of strong Christian women who have indulged in "mommy porn," viewing it as nothing more than a guilty little pleasure.
We will ache for His presence and have deep longings that are unmet. John Piper stated, "The ultimate reason why we are sexual is to make God more fully knowable." This truth is not simply applied to marriage, but also to singles. Single or married, yielding your sexuality under the lordship of Christ will always be a battle. Because you may believe that the answer for sexual purity is marriage. The apostle Paul advised those who "burned" with sexual desire to get married.You might even say to yourself out loud, "That's not who I am.That's not what I choose to think." The young woman who has lesbian thoughts or the single man who is repeatedly reminded of pornographic images from the past does not have to be defined by those. When we allow temptation or past failings to define us, we deny the power of Christ to make us "new creatures." Romans 6 reminds us that we were once slaves to sin.Our sexuality prompts longings and desires that point to an intimacy beyond what even the best marriage can sustain. I've met with many young men and women who think that their struggle to stay pure would end with a wedding ceremony. However, the battle will not end in marriage; it just changes.It is possible for both single and married Christians to operate under what Kenny Luck, a pastor at Saddleback Church and founder of Every Man Ministries, called "sexual atheism." In other words, you follow Christ in most areas but excuse yourself from His teachings on sex.If you've fought the battle of sexual purity for any length of time, you know that it is far more complex than simply abstaining from having sex.Sexual purity may be expressed by what you do with your body, but it is ultimately rooted in your mind, your heart and your soul.This means that married men and women should be learning mysteries of God as they experience sex together.I believe singles can also understand something deeper about God through their sexuality.The same can be said of young men who regularly view pornography.These activities stimulate your brain, storing lasting memories as if you are actually having sex.