The only difference is that people who’ve had other relationships have the experience to guide them through the rough patches.That first relationship can be tricky because you’re basically groping in the dark.It’s one thing to stand up for yourself and advocate for your own interests.It’s another to be a stubborn jackass who always has to get their own way. and sometimes that compromise means doing what your partner wants instead of what you do.A successful relationship doesn’t mean staying with someone until you die, nor does avoiding a break-up make a relationship successful.You can stay in a relationship that makes you miserable until the day they carry you out in a pine box – personally, I’d call a failed relationship over the couple that realized they were done and made a clean break of it.
It’s a classic catch-22; they feel that they can’t get into a relationship because they don’t have the experience, but they can’t get the experience without the relationship. Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you should enter every relationship with the idea that it’s doomed to failure.
See, much like the popped-collar Broseph who’s convinced that doing “Straight Out of Compton” at the Applebees karaoke night is a good idea after five Tuaca bombs, when you’re in the throes of your first relationship, your common sense tends to go right out the window. Those early glory days fade faster than you realize.
That rush means in the oxytocin haze, but falls apart when it fades and her inability to clean up after herself isn’t cute anymore. Just don’t let that early infatuation push you into going too far, too fast. In fact, let’s talk about that for a minute: One thing that almost always freaks out relationship newbies: the first fight.
Nerd Love, both here and at Kotaku start off the same way: “I’ve never had a girlfriend”.
Many my readers have a lot of anxiety over finding their first relationship.