I don’t want to have to tell Kevin Hart that my last three boyfriends were NBA players. In the end, knowing a person’s “type” really doesn’t matter as long as they’re attracted to you. This question is a little different from “what kind of guys/girls do you like?
” As a plus-size woman of color, I hear this question in two scenarios.
I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.
The first step in ending up with the right person is meeting the right person, and for something so important in our lives, we’ve had for doing it efficiently and intelligently.
Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?Either the guy is trying to see if I’m cool with him not being black, or the guy is trying to see if I’m cool with him being skinny.For me, the answer is always the same: “I like all types of guys.” I mean, if I’m on a date with you, it’s because I’m open to dating you, no matter what you look like. So, are you trying to make me to cry on our first date?While we all had different experiences, there was one thing we all agreed on: There are a few questions we are absolutely of hearing from guys on a first date. Asking me what I “do for fun” kind of makes me feel like I’m on an interview, not a date.Some of you may be thinking that this question means the guy is trying to plan a future date for us. There is no faster way to make me feel like I’m failing at life than to ask me why I’m single. from Brooklyn, NY for suggesting this week’s topic: Online dating, once a fringe and stigmatized activity, is now over a billion industry.Over 40 million Americans have given online dating a try, and over a of the American couples married between 20 met online.For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.The alternative that often happens is meeting someone through friends, which can work, but it’s limiting yourself to single people your closest friends and family happen to know.” Or should I say, “I get really clingy around month three and it scares guys off, so here I am, solo!” The world already gives single girls the side-eye; there really is no need to bring up singledom on dates.