I've defeated this pesky nemesis, but he's resilient.
Spiders don't take their webs down when they've caught their dinner. If I meet a woman, and we date and like each other, what's the next step?
She was pressuring me to become sexual and go with the flow, neither of which felt okay with me.
For me, this isn't the time for 60s casual morality, and bouncing back from a failed relationship is too painful to just go with the flow.
I was anxious in part because a few weeks just aren't enough for me to feel trusting.
But trying to go slow in a dating world that operates at supersonic speed is difficult, because it's really easy to get caught up in the partnering race.